Frequently Asked Questions

The reasons are objective. First of all, deficiency of men in the countries of the former Soviet Union: there are less
men than women in Russia and Ukraine. Men die earlier, or are subject to serious illnesses. As a result, every
tenth woman at the age of 35 can't find a partner for a marriage. Then all over the world our men are known for
their hard drinking. This problem exists in other countries as well, but not on such large scale. This is so often in
Russia that if a husband doesn't drink, he is considered almost an angel, even if he is far from being nice.
The other problem is many men here believe they should be allowed to have as many mistresses as they want.
Besides, there is crisis of modern Russia, Russian living standards differ from Western ones, and every woman
wants stability for her family, she needs to be sure in her children's future, so women try to settle themselves in
more prosperous countries, it is their right. No one can blame women for desire of better life for them and their
children.
 

Traditionally, in Ukraine and Russia people get married in young age, and usually the age of partners approximately
 the same, with 1-2 year difference. But if we talk about international marriages and age difference between foreign
men and Russian women we should take into consideration several factors. First of all, men in the West since
young age concentrate on the career, and only after 30 they start thinking seriously about marriage and family.
Many foreign men of 35-45 say they have never been married and decided to create a family, when in Russia by
this age men have been married and divorced (some several times) or live in marriage, and have children of 15-20
years old. So, the first factor why Russian girls of 20-25 say they would be interested in men of 35-45 is their
understanding that in the West younger men are not ready for creating a family. Then, a Russian woman would
move to a foreign country, where the only person she would rely on and be supported by will be her husband. So,
women expect more stability, support, care from older men, more experienced and those who know what women
want. The third factor would be the following: foreign men live active and healthy life - they visit gym regularly,
mostly do not have bad habits as alcohol, smoking and using drugs, and take care of themselves. So, at the age
of 45 they look, feel and act like our men look at 30. At the same time Russian women get serious and mature
earlier than women in the West - their life is harder, they have to start working at early age, and often a girl of
18-19 studies and works the same time to pay for her studies and living (but, of course, there are infantile women
at the age of 30 even...). Add to all said factors of Russian psychology: a woman should be married, not married
woman is considered inferior to a married woman (even if the marriage of the latest is not happy); and social
studies showing that in Russia there are more women than men. As a conclusion, Russian women want to get
married and they have more chances to find a husband abroad through international marriage agency than in their
native city; any age difference would be ok if the man feels he would justify expectations of the woman towards him.
 

Women understand that the first impression foreign men get about a woman is from the photos in her profile in our
 women catalog, and if the picture is of low quality you may not write the woman back. If a girl is serious she will go
to the professional photographer, pay and make professional photos where she looks good. Later on, while
exchanging letters, the woman can send you her amateur photos, made by her friends (such amateur pictures are
really of worse quality than professionally made ones, and after scanning and resizing the quality of amateur photos
become even lower; that's why we do not advise women to use their home-made photos for profiles on the web-site).
The agency usually advises a woman to go to the photographer who makes good photos. You can notice similarities
in photos of women from one city.

 Oh .. Yes . All the photos are real and recent . More then that we add on also videos . 

Men clients are interviewed online using  Skype or Google Talk , Women clients are interviewed by our relationship advisors in Ukraine, Romania, Poland ( we have offices in those countries ) .  We endeavour to find out  a lot more about you and what you require from a relationship. This is made up of many factors including your previous relationships in addition to what you need from the future. We pride ourselves in providing the facility that enables you to find someone very special with whom to spend your life. 

 You are allocated a personal advisor who searches for and recommends members to you, following your details have given to us. Who you choose to date is always your choice. You are at liberty to decline any person for any reason, although we ask that you tell us why honestly, as it helps member to adapt to get the best from our service.

 Your personal advisor will recommend members to you, after we discreetly introduce your profile  to them and they show a positive interest on you. . Your advisor will inform you  more about the members. You make the final decision whether you would like to meet them, if so we contact them to tell them of you. 

 This obviously depends on many factors, but be guided by our ‘10’ rule. For every 10 people you choose to meet through our service, experience tells us 2 will be a complete waste of time, 6 out of 10, will be very interesting but without enough in common to take it further. Two out of the ten, you will date several times and they will become friends. When you have 4 good friends one is likely to become so special that you leave us. NEVER JUDGE US BY MEETING ONLY TWO OR THREE PEOPLE. Providing you meet members twice, the ‘10’ rule ALWAYS works.

 No. We cannot make people like you. We can only introduce you to a much wider selection of people than you are ever likely to meet without us. We would not however, offer you membership if we did not believe that our service was the best option for you.  If you have a nice personality and are presentable then generally the service works very well indeed. It will not work for people who are mean, unfriendly, cold or closed etc. If we do not honestly believe we are the best service for you, we will, given your circumstances recommend better agencies for you. Why would we do this? – simple if you have a poor experience with us, it tarnishes the whole reputation of our industry (as happened to time share). However if an agency is successful for you, then you become our life long ambassadors, recommending our services to your friends.

 We expect every member to be honest with us. If you lie about your age, height, smoking, etc. we will remove your membership without refund as we cannot  trust you, and our members deserve better than that. 

 We expect you to be courteous, well mannered, reliable, respect fellow members and to have integrity.

We interview every new lady in depth, we insist on home addresses and home telephone numbers, we have photographs of every lady, and all ladies are required to sign a legally enforceable statement about themselves.  We log and keep details of all dates for at least three years. We look into any complaints so we can build up ‘intelligence’ on ladies who could be a problem. 

 Very. We have top business people and world famous names, so your confidentiality is essential to us. We never use our trade name on outgoing calls; messages on answer phones are left in such a way that they may be replayed in company and your guests wouldn’t have any idea what it was about.

Tell us! Discuss any problems with your advisor. If you are still not happy talk to co-our owner Dr. Edwards ( Edwards@hemarried.com ) . Our job is to make you happy. We care about the success of our service and always strive for excellence. To be a member of our organization is a privilege, as it is, to be of service to you. 

 Professional introduction agencies who interview their members are expensive to operate, they have certain overhead cost that have to be met. The main cost of all quality agencies is the marketing costs to attract the right calibre of people. Other costs are office and staff wages to service their clients. 

 a. We give 100% money back guarantees .

b. We give every dating member the minimum number of introductions .

c. For Presidential  Plus members, should we not find a partner that you decide to marry or live with within two years we will refund all your membership fee if we don't find you a partner.

 The structure of the interview is.

1.     A quick run through of what makes our service different to every other .

2.You tell us your life story from birth until the present. Your childhood is particularity important to us to understand why you may attract the wrong sort of attention/person. We can advise you of any changes in attitude or behavior that will improve the situation.

3.             We go on to define “love” so you don’t settle for a second best relationship as most of the population do. We explain how the opposite sex thinks and how relationships develop from sexual attraction to becoming the single most important feature of life. We will explain the statistical facts of why for certain groups of people it becomes a very competitive environment and how to 'load the odds' in your favour. We usually give you relationship and dating tips.

4.             We ask you many personal questions and require you to sign a legal declaration that all is true and you have not withheld any relevant information. ( if you do not join this document is destroyed either in your presences or within 14 days if you go home to consider joining).

5.                   We then either recommend a more suitable agency to you, or tell you which membership level you would need to benefit from the service.